Christmas, a favorite holiday amongst many modern societies, may be one of the most controversial and misunderstood holidays of the year. Is it about Saint Nicholaus? Is it about gifts? Is about the winter solstice? Is it about the birth of Jesus?
Or is it simply a combination of all of these and more?
Honestly, I don’t have a clear answer for you. Instead, I want to look at Christmas from a father and husband’s point of view. Christmas nowadays may seem a bit feminine. The season is consumed with wrapping boxes (what man seriously wants to do this?!), decorating some plants (ditto!), cooking big meals, and visiting friends and family. No wonder the NFL added a few football games to encourage the men!
But what if there is a much more significant part of the celebration of Christmas reserved for the father, husband, or head of the house? After all, celebrating the gift of Christmas (the birth of a Savior) ultimately focuses on the love of the Father to give the gift.
4 Things Every Dad/Husband Should Do During Christmas
1. Lead in the home
This should be a no-brainer…but it’s not. We can blame the culture for blurring the lines of gender. We can blame Hollywood for diminishing the role of a man. We can even blame the church for not teaching about the role of a man enough. Or we can simply blame ourselves for taking the easier road to travel. Let’s face it, it’s much easier to not lead in the home. It’s easier to be consumed with work, with yourself, or with your dreams and goals.
Or we can simply blame ourselves for taking the easier road to travel. Let’s face it, it’s much easier to not lead in the home. It’s easier to be consumed with work, with yourself, or with your dreams and goals.
Maybe that can change this year! Choose to be a part of the holiday preparations. Help cook the big meal. Shop for some of the gifts for the kids and relatives. Write more than just your name in the cards. Plan a party with your wife. The idea is that you actively be a part of running the home.
2. Make Traditions
Who puts the star on your Christmas tree? If you answered with, “What star?”, please aggressively plant your face into your palm! This should be a tradition, a hallmark moment when a light shines down from heaven as you stand dangerously on that old wobbly chair placing the star on the highest part of the tree. Now, I’ll admit that I’ve failed miserably at this. Decorating becomes such an event that I simply watch whatever Christmas movie is playing, zoning out as the decorating elves finish the job. But not next year. Next year I’m making a tradition.
Who passes the gifts? Why not dad? It’s a great way to show love and be an example of God giving us His greatest gift.
3. Reading the Story
The story of the birth of Christ is amazing! We may miss it’s meaning as we read bits and pieces of it throughout the year, but we shouldn’t miss out on it’s beauty in it’s entirety at this special time of the year. My advice, compile a list of scriptures relating to the prophecy of the Messiah and His birth. This can easily be done through google. Even better are the pre-made lists and cool graphics on Pinterest. Here’s my list for this year:
Taken together, this is a powerful look at the expectation of the Messiah and the events surrounding His birth.
And who better to read this awesome story than the man of the house?!
4. The Family Blessing
Men. For some reason, there seems to be no faster way to a woman’s heart than when you humble yourself before God and pray a prayer or blessing over your wife and kids.
So use this time to give a gift that no wrapping paper can cover. Bring the family together and pray for them. Think about this beforehand and know what you want to speak into the lives of your family. Bringing a few Bible verses may help as well. Here’s one of my favorites:
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope (Romans 15:13).
Christmas: A Family Celebration
I hope this fills you with a desire to make this Christmas the best one yet for you and your family. The women can still decorate, cook, and look forward to those social gatherings while the men compliment these moments with authentic leadership and reinforce the real reason for the season.
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I really feel that this is a big issue. Men need to be men. Period. It takes intentionality and a clear vision, 2 things that I will be posting about much more next year.
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